There are two ways a human can communicate, with the mind and the intellect or the heart and feelings.
The mind is very dangerous because it works with opinions and assumptions. The function of interpretation is very flawed because we think we know what the other person is saying or thinking, but we are usually wrong.
That often causes fights and problems and eventual breakup. But the heart or feelings and sensations in the body is an energetic transmission that is clear.
There is ample research explaining the chemical reactions in the body when there is physical contact and sexual desire, but if you give it enough observation and contemplation, you will find that there is much more than just a chemical process. If it were just chemicals, we could feel passion for anyone, but that is not reality.
Whatever it is that we feel with a hug and cuddling and the need of physical contact proves that there is something more than just the sexual pleasure in the physical contact because we get that even when there is no sexual interaction, or after sex. Some people cannot cuddle, and we will discuss that problem in another article.
There is clearly something more than just sex in the sensations of a good, open hearted hug or cuddling. Just lying together, holding each other, is so satisfying that it proves there must be something more to our body and the interaction of two people that is feeding a hunger. The question is; what is that hunger for and why do we have it?
Different people will have different answers, but what we are exploring here is the root cause, not just the way each person identifies or explains it. We often stop at a surface and simple explanation of things, but then never going deeper to find a root cause. In order change our patterns or the cycle we are in, we have to find the root cause of things.
If we look at other functions like intuition, hunches or this tremendous need for touch, and then satisfaction from cuddling, we can say that there are faculties of the human being that are beyond the physical and intellectual functions.
Studies have been done to prove that if an infant does not get enough physical touch, they will die. That means, touch is more vital to our life than food and air.
It is clear that we must have an open heart with no inhibitions, be that physical, mental or emotional, in order to get that transmission of energy in a satisfying sense through hugging and cuddling.
Our first step is to acknowledge that there is a form of communication between people that is beyond just the physical contact and that something is being transmitted between our bodies when we touch.
The second point is that we must have none or very little intellectual, emotional or physical inhibitions In order for that transmission to flow smoothly and fully. The third point is that we are not just this physical body or mind and that in satisfying the energy transmission, once having developed a full openness of all our being, we can actually communicate with a far more accurate medium similar to what one could call reading minds.
Aside from the obvious health benefits, this energy becomes a food that allows us to evolve to a higher level of consciousness which is a combination of the physical body, the intellect and that ‘something more’ that makes a human different than any other animal.
The concept of meditation is to overcome these mental, intellectual and physical inhibitions so that the mind can be fully aware of the body’s sensations and develop a heightened sense of this energy food.
Exercises to develop the awareness of the energy
The simple meditation of observing your breath moving through your body and the physical sensations in your body, allows you to release your inhibitions on all levels. The caveat is that you must have a good teacher and not a false method that is just something to replace taking a nap. Beware, there are far more false teachers and schools than sincere real ones.
It may take time, but practices such as Yoga, Tai Chi (if you have a true master teacher) and Qi Gong for example, speed up the process of developing the ability to sense the finer energies in your body. In so doing you will develop the part which is more than just a human and open the doors to the ability to communicate via that energy transmission.
Even if you cannot get that level of awareness, you will still find a far deeper connection in your relationship, and learn to hug fully, with the whole body and heart.
Once we can communicate with our sensations, we will not have irrational fights and arguments or other problems in our relationship. Then as individuals, we can develop into becoming what we have a been originally designed to be, which is more than just a human animal.
Perhaps we are caterpillars and have to figure out how to transform into something different by understanding and developing our energetic functions through harmonious relationships and cultivating that subtle energy which is our essential nature since birth, our first and most vital source of life.