Many people have come to me with the same problem; ‘Everything seems so perfect with this new person I met, I can’t find anything wrong, so I better leave before I get hurt.’
It’s very common to not be able to figure out what that strange thing is which is preventing you from having that deep connection.
‘It’s just too good to be true.’
That feeling triggers subconscious fears of getting hurt and prevents you from making that deep emotional connection. You then just accept that there is a problem you cannot see and run away.
But the only problem is that you cannot believe you found someone so perfectly aligned to your desires.
The qualities you’re looking for in a partner are often set at a very high standard. When you actually find someone with those qualities you tend to close your heart or run away because you cannot believe it’s true.
“How could I find someone with all the qualities I’m looking?” “I must be missing something.”
The fear kicks in that if you find that special person, you would be so deeply in love, if they left, you would be totally devastated. So your subconscious fears tell you it is better to pick someone with flaws you can see, so you never let your heart become fully invested in the relationship.
But of course, that leads to repeated relationships that end in failure, obviously since you pick someone you are not really matched well with.
We have to learn to trust more and take a chance with a strong heart that is willing to risk being disappointed.
Our courses and articles on Relationshipcoachonline.com make you able to deal with disappointment and rejection and will make you so confident that you will not mind taking that risk.
It’s only in taking a risk that you stand a chance of success, because the perfect partner is not going to know where you live and coming knocking on your door.
Be willing to try and find out if they actually are too good to be true. If you do not, your relationships will be perpetually disappointing because you will only accept and get into a relationship with someone who has significant flaws or is not what you’re looking for.
If you are lucky enough to find a true gem of a partner, don’t reject the special one when you find yourself thinking they’re too good to be true.
If you have a feeling that something is wrong and you can’t figure out what, consider that what is wrong, is your own fear.
Your fear is what keeps you in the endless loop of picking the wrong partner by missing out the right one.
To have the strength to not fear getting hurt, do these three simple steps;
- Think about how many times you have been hurt, and that you are still here, you will always recover.
- Look forward, not back. Difficulties are what make us stronger, and the past was just preparing you for the future, so don’t let it imprison you.
- There is only one thing that makes life perfect, and that is a loving relationship. If you don’t take the chance, you will guarantee a lonely life. So try and know that if it works, great, but if not, you will recover and try again.
Every day is a new start to a new life. Forget the past and look forward to a happy future.
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